How often have we heard that sentiment? How often have we repeated it?
I’m here to tell you that the phrase “Nobody’s perfect” is wrong. Entirely wrong. Completely untrue.
Because, I am perfect. Wholly, 100% perfect.
And so are you.
What if we led our lives, instead of looking for kinks and blemishes and imperfections, as though we and those around us are inherently perfect? How might life present differently?
Instead, we seek to mess with perfection every day. We poison perfection with jealousy, ego, contaminated foods and beverages, ill thoughts, and aggressive actions. I guess that’s a part of being human.
Another part of being human is that we have been given the capacity to reason at a level bestowed only upon our species. With that reason, we can find peace, joy, happiness, fulfillment, generosity, kindness, and nurturing in ourselves and share it with others. Yet something within our societies gets in the way. I call it selfishness, though many other adjectives might apply.
For the sake of their own profits, advertising agencies and the corporations they serve have sent out billions of messages over the years to make us feel inadequate. We are not inadequate, yet they create an us/them narrative to wheedle that notion into our minds. Someone has a “better” car than you, “better” clothes, “better” hair, “better” spouses, “better” kids, “better” homes, “better” everything. You just might have felt fine without seeing the messages, though they are very hard to avoid. Shut the television, internet, newspaper, radio, and mailbox and you can keep the message of inadequacy out of your home. Step outside, and the side of the bus, the bus stop you pass, the billboards, and again the radio will creep the message back in. If you want to keep your kids from the messages, you would not let them watch television, go to school, have friends, or read.
Put simply, the message is virtually impossible to ignore. Check out the Christmas advertising that is running over and over and over. “Be reasonable in your spending, so buy this luxury vehicle.” “Don’t buy me a shoe I don’t like or I will sing a nasty carol at your door.” “Show the woman afraid of storms you love her by buying her this questionably sourced expensive diamond.” “Let this hipster kid who never changes his outfits tell you you drive a lame car.” If you don’t, then what kind of person are you?!
Certainly not perfect!
Check out food advertising. Everyone who gets meals at cholesterol-, fat-, sugar-, and salt-laden fast food restaurants is skinny, happy, and absolutely delighted with life, even though this same “food” is shown scientifically and experientially to dampen libido, enhance weight gain, block blood flow, encourage diabetes, and set off depression. But they’re having so much fun and are so vibrant! Surely, you’re an ignorant square if you eat steamed veggies or meat products you can recognize. The message is that you are far from perfect. The reality is that this food disrupts the chemistry that guides your body toward survival, thrival, and perfection.
Listen to the politicians or the pundits. Okay, don’t! But if you do, you will likely find yourself arguing against your own self-interest, the interest of the wider community, and the interest of many species’ survival, including our own, here on this planet. What do you mean you think everyone should have access to health and wellness, clean drinking water, clean air, and clean food? Where’s the fun and profit in that?! And how can you be against profits? You’re un-American. And in this country that makes you very far from perfect!
You imagine what life was like when you were 2 or 3. When everyone, no matter their color, gender, age, or body size was one thing – the perfect playmate. When you didn’t judge others, because you didn’t have that capacity. When you naturally shared, because you didn’t know about stockpiling for yourself. When you hadn’t ingested the messages of inadequacy that divide the population from each other and split us from certainty in our minds and confidence in our bodies. It was a time when we knew that we were perfect, because there wasn’t any other way.
The illness, avarice, and contention we have in our societies are signs that we have strayed out of balance with that inherent trait of our being, consciously or unconsciously. These qualities show us how much we are intertwined, that we are one, not separate as we travel this Earth together. An asthmatic child did not create the smog that causes his inability to breathe. Someone did. Messing with someone else’s perfection.
So, I ask again: If we see ourselves as perfect and we see all our fellow humans as perfect, what kind of world would we create where we can preserve that perfection?
“Nobody’s perfect.” Live by negative sayings, create a negative world.
“Everybody’s perfect.” Live with positivity, create a positive world?
I don’t think it’s been tried yet. Perhaps now is the time…